Since his skyrocket into internet fame, Caldwell has received criticism, but not by anyone in the gay media; At best, all everyone has done is to giggle, ignoring the fact that is a gay man serving up a con, and alot of it to the delight of those who don’t like gay people.
To them, Caldwell proves gay people are liars and unworthy of equal rights, including the right to marry.
Now we have this unfortunate incident involving Terry Bean, a high profile donor and fundraiser who cofounded the Human Rights Campaign and Gay And Lesbian Victory Fund, arrested and charged with sexually abusing a 15-year-old boy with his boyfriend in a hotel last year.
Since news broke, the gay community has been having its asses handed to them in spades on social media by anti-gay social justice warriors and activists and organizations. Can you blame them? The arrest of Bean and his boyfriend for sexually abusing a minor have given them capital, and they have gone on a spending spree.
Can I blame them? No.
Mr. Bean has caused irreparable harm to the gay rights movement. The popular gay blogging and writing community, the ones who have been at the forefront of this ‘war’ against homophobia, fucked up. Badly.
I don’t want to be defeatist. I shouldn’t be. But we got broken. Thing is, I’ve been warning everyone and anyone for seven years do not give gay activists and organizations the benefit of the doubt. They will hurt you much like they hurt me once, I kept telling everyone.
But no one would listen. Instead everyone who entertained my concerns on IM, email, and social media rolled their eyes, and dismissed my concerns as nothing more than ramblings by a bitter old queen. I was looking for attention. I was involved in a conspiracy to legitimize a certain special interest group or controversial ideology. I’m a fake, a fraud, a poser, a liar, etc.
But I only failed myself. This blog might be enjoying a spike in readership, but I’m not doing this to become sell books on Amazon or songs on iTunes or become a pundit or personality.
Our leadership has failed me and you. Leadership as in, the gay rights activists and organizations, the bloggers and writers who masquerade as transparency advocates, and advocate against anti-gay extremists in religion and politics. Men like Terrance Bean who somehow imagined he could get away with committing improprieties and above the law.
I need to protect myself (and my friends?) from their social amnesia.
We need to stop, once and for all, lying to ourselves and playing this stupid game of apples and oranges.
They’ve both begun to rot.